There’s been talk of Saturn Returning in our world lately, and it’s gotten me thinking about expectations in the voice studio. I’ve been through this experience with a good many close relationships, not to mention my own. The recent conversations have me thinking that one of the key ingredients during this time of people’s lives has to do with the way that we process expectation, and create a sense of personal ownership over our own actions. To understand the transition, we have to begin with where we come from.
1) individuals understand that they have the power and authority to create their own expectations for themselves
2) they understand that others will create expectations for themselves as well that may not align with their own expectations
3) they develop measures of empathy that allow for them to hear other people’s desires as separate from their own, allowing them to respond with less judgement and more compassion, because they grow to understand that. . .
4) living in close community requires us to balance our own desires with the desires of those around us
The trick here, again, tends to be that young adults are less practiced at articulating their own desires, because they never knew that they were allowed to, and didn’t know the difference.
What if we taught them to begin to develop a sense of self, one that hungered for knowledge for the sake of being able to set personal goals and measure the outcomes? What if we showed our students what it means to state personal desires and hear the desires of others stated as well, and they were able to participate in the ensuing dialogue that leads to the compromise so essential to close community engagement? What would that do for their sense of empathy, their growth as artists, and their confidence in themselves? More importantly, perhaps. . .What would it do for the instructors?